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Although we all get a lot of titillation on Nasty Fridays, at its heart is purpose is to educate so everyone can have better sex. Actually let me be real – the point is to over-share.
At any rate, I received a reader question that stumped me, I’m still at work at an ungodly hour of Thursday night, and this girl is waiting for an answer. So let’s be educational and shit today for a change. Check out her question and drop your advice in the comments:
Hi Max I have a sex question I hope you can help me with.
See there’s this guy that I’ve been “hanging out with”…well when I say that I really mean we’re f**king. I really like him but he’s a player type and doesn’t want to settle down with just one girl. That’s okay with me but I just wish that we would hang out a little more often because we only get together when he calls and that’s only once every month or three.
When we hook up he always talks about how tight my p*ssy is…I don’t know why but if I don’t have sex for a long time it gets really tight and it’s like almost like a virgin when I have sex again. He’s the only guy that I’m having sex with so if he doesn’t call me for a few months it gets really tight.
Here is my question: my friend says that this guy would call me more often if he thought that I was seeing other people because guys like competition. I never really told him I wasn’t, but I did say that I get tight when I havent’ had sex in a while so I guess he can tell. Anyway so my friend says that I should use a vibrator to um, loosen things up so that when we hook up again he will think I’ve been with somone else. That makes sense kinda but on the other hand I think well he really seems to like how tight I am so maybe I should keep it that way so he will like it more and maybe he’ll want to hook up more often?
I feel too shy to ask anyone else for advice but I really don’t know what to do. I thought you would be the right person to ask because you write about sex a lot.
Honestly I’ve read this a million times and have no clue what to tell this girl. What do you guys think?
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Good recipe for a disaster…
Tell her it’s called a booty call. She should keep that in mind.
He is NOT in a relationship with her, he f**ks her and so does she.
Her friend’s advice is just plain stupid. Well… how old is she ? Maybe I am too old to play the ”try to make him jealous” game.
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marie,
you hit the nail on the head! girly already knows dude does NOT want a commitment and he is a player. he obviously only wants her for sex, since he calls her when he wants to get it cracking–and sometimes those phone calls are months apart.
if she doesnt want to be a jumpoff, she should find some one who wants the same things she wants. if you’re a jumpoff, you’re not ENTITLED frequent sex with the same guy so that your coochie doesnt tighten up. i dont think she gets the terms and conditions of a FB. and regardless of the type of grip her vadge has on dude’s d*ck, his feelings arent likely to change.
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I’ve read this 7 times.
I’ll have to come back to this.
*reads one more time*
Yup. Coming back to this one.
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“Theo, that is the DUMBEST thing I ever heard!”
Sorry, I don’t mean to be harsh, but I would really ask her friend to assess her headspace. It ain’t all good in there.
I hope to God she keeps it tight. OR maybe she can find someone that wants to s*x her more than once every Haley’s Comet… Yeah, how about that!?
Nick, you’re too sarcastic today..
*signing out*
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LOL @ maybe she can find someone that wants to s*x her more than once every Haley’s Comet
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It seems that their “relationship” (used in VERY loose terms) is uneven. He’s in jumpoff mode, and she wants more, but doesn’t want to tell him for fear that he will find something new. You don’t “hang out” with the jumpoff – if that’s what she wants, then she needs to find a BOYFRIEND. Jump-offs are for “gettin it in” and sending them on their way. Period. It doesn’t matter if she stitched her ladyparts closed, she will STILL be the jumpoff. And he doesn’t know or care how tight her ladyparts are, because if he did notice and it did matter, she wouldn’t STILL be the jumpoff.
It sounds like she is rather inexperienced when it comes to the law of the jumpoff…maybe she needs to reevaluate whether she really is cool with being the jumpoff.
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Fabfoodie basically said a lot that I wanted to but if I may I would like to piggy back off her and add a few things. In all honesty I think she needs to put her panties in a freezer and take a set back. She clearly does not understand what being a J/O is and that is detrimental. Her role in this man’s life is to fill his sexual desire so I doubt he is interested in spending quality time.
“That’s okay with me but I just wish that we would hang out a little more often because we only get together when he calls and that’s only once every month or three.”
That entire line screams naiveté and lack of self respect. If a man is not treating you the way you want/need, tell him. If the man does not change especially in a situation like this…walk away. In the words of L. Hill…respect is just the minimum.
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*hi-five to B-P*
He’s not going to want to change because he made his intentions clear from the beginning, and she saw it.
“I really like him but he’s a player type and doesn’t want to settle down with just one girl.”
Her tight vajajay is not enough to make him (or any man) settle down if he’s showing her from the beginning that he’s not trying to wife anyone up. And that “make him jealous” idea that her friend had…one word…RIDICULOUS. Seriously, are you five? Do you chase your boyfriend around the playground and hit him to let him know you like him? Grow up. Trying to make a man “jealous” only results in making yourself look like an asshole.
*stepping off my soapbox*
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Sounds like this guy will never change your status as a side chick.
My advice is to find a new man & when he’s giving it to you on the regular,
Do some Kiegels to keep it tight. It’s a win-win – a man who actually cares about you, more sex & a tight p*ssy!
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Waiting for HLBB’s novel of a response..
but in the meantime… i’ll just keep shaking my head.. how old is this chick?? Seriously? 14?
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max, i havent visited the site in about a week or so, but im really diggin the new layout. it looks fab!!
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*clears throat, steps up on soapbox*
IS THIS GIRL STUPID OR JUST SLOW?
(I’m talking about the friend here…)
Miss Confused: this man does not want to hang out with you if you are both fully dressed for longer than 10 minutes. I want you to look in the mirror and repeat to yourself; “I’m not a casual sex/jump off kind of woman”. It’s okay. You don’t have to be. You can hold out for a man/relationship that fulfills what you want. You can obviously hold out for sex every couple of months, so please, put that energy into finding a man who will want to hang out during daylight hours with all your clothes on and can do you right in bed you deserve it. Besides, if your pussy is that tight, there are legions of men out there that would line up for it.. Side note: if you aren’t feening for Mr. Once Every Two Months in a sexual manner, I suspect he sucks in bed (and not in a good way)
Okay, Ms.Friend,..put down your dog eared copy of “The Rules” and listen closely. What the HELL do you mean “use a vibrator to um, loosen things up so that when (they) hook up again he will think (she’s) been with someone else”?!?!? Take a compact and spread your legs…that is a vagina, it’s YOUR vagina, and your vagina is not like your girl’s vagina. So stop giving erroneous advice about cooch, unless you are a licensed gynecologist. Did you know your coochie has muscles? That these can be tightened? That this idea of a loose cooch is a myth and doesn’t realistically reflect the amount of sex (or sex partners) a woman has had?
As for advising her to try and make the dude jealous as a way to “keep” him. Again, I must ask:are you stupid or just slow? That.Never. Works. What would your advice be to get him to marry her? Get pregnant?
As a friend, you should be bolstering your girl’s self esteem, encouraging her to meet other men…NOT advising her to try outdated and failed tricks from 1954…
My dear girl, give up on the dude. You can’t see the forest for the tree…there are other men out there.
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She has two options: stop giving him the pums or suck it up and be his BC
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